Can We Have it ALL?

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CAN we have it all? I mean, I guess this is debatable, but if you ask me: NAH, yo. lol

I’ve been blogging full time for the last seven years. I’ve gone from doing it all (and I mean it all—from taking product & swatch photos, reviewing, writing posts, handling the business end, etc.) to having a very small team. I busted my behind to work to get to where I am now—and I’ve done many amazing things with even more amazing things to come. BUT as I was handling my business, things were heading toward a downward spiral in other aspects of my life. Like for one, I wasn’t keeping things in order in my apartment (which I spoke about here). At the beginning of the year, I was getting back on track with eating healthy and working out regularly. I was working hard over the years to cook healthy meals and workout regularly (read how I did that here), fell off in 2016, but was getting back on track.

Then I decided I needed to do some serious purging and rearranging of things in the house so that’s what I’ve been doing for the last 2-3 weeks. I can only last about two hours a day (I ain’t trying to kill my back and knee) so I do it a bit at a time. But since I’ve been doing major work around the house, I haven’t made it to the gym. And because I’ve been so determined with getting in on this apartment work plus my period is coming, I haven’t been on top of cooking my meals like I usually do. I’ve been eating like an unsupervised 8 year old boy :/

This year I wanted to take a new direction with the way I blog and also with how I produce and edit my Youtube videos. It’s coming along and actually the new way I blog has given me more flexibility to get my house in order. But I also haven’t been able to keep up with emails, getting to events, and networking. Lawd-a-mercy.

Once I get things in order with my house, I’ll be able to pick back up with cooking regularly, eating healthy, and hitting the gym again.

I’m also going to Iceland next week. (YASSSSSS—going away and coming back typically gives me a nice reboot)

But then there are personal relationships to maintain: family, friends, and I also should probably start dating again which would require some changes in my current lifestyle—working in beauty and fashion especially from home doesn’t really afford you access to huge dating pools. I tried online dating but the last time I did I kept meeting people who were “touched” so I took it as a sign that I’d just meet someone the old fashioned way…lol. I also want to have kids soon. Lawd-a-mercy. Dis tew much…lol.

Then having to keep up with all the political news and making sure ya’lls president doesn’t set us back 50 years. Everyday I have to check to make sure I still have all my civil rights. How does one run a business, create nice things, keep a tidy, modern-looking house, dive into the minimalist lifestyle, scope out potential husbands, plan to have kids in a few years, get her money straight, grow out her kitchen AND make sure she doesn’t have to flee America because 45 is outchea playing president. SMH.

It’s hard to be on EVERYTHING. I’d even say it’s impossible—and that’s okay. Perfection doesn’t exist, folks—no matter how much social media tries to make you believe it does.

Once I’m done with the purging and “remodeling,” bit by bit I’ll show you what I’ve been up to and how I did it both here on the blog (subscribe here) and on my Youtube channel. Leave a comment below if there’s any particular topic you’d like me to discuss (i.e. how to purge, how to remodel on a budget, etc.)

And while you’re at it with leaving comments, tell me below if you think it’s possible to have it all.

About Danielle

A former finance girl, Danielle is a New York City based freelance writer and fashion and beauty expert. She's a Hofstra University and Fashion Institute of Technology grad with an obsession with fashion and beauty which she loves to tell you all about every weekday on her award-winning blog. Think of her as your style and beauty entourage all wrapped up into one bubbly brown package. Danielle's work and expertise can be found in print and across the web in Cosmopolitan for Latinas,, and more! She's also appeared as an on-air style expert on CBS New York's "The Couch" and WPIX11's Savvy Shopper segment.

10 Responses to Can We Have it ALL?

  1. Lily S. says:

    Yes you can have it all and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! You’re young beautiful and talented and any man would be crazy not to recognize it, stay in the LIGHT????

    • Danielle says:


      Thanks so much, but “getting a man” wasn’t the point of this post. I know I can get one…lol. My point was that in the quest of trying to do great things in many aspects of one’s life, can you really “have it all.”

  2. cocoajanelle says:

    Hey Danielle! Would love to see tips on becoming more of a minimalist on the blog…I have such a hard time with lettings things go but I too am trying to downsize the amount of random stuff in my apt, sometimes I just don’t know where to start lol

    • Danielle says:

      Heyyy Janelle!

      I sure can! It’s really hard but I’m slowly making my way there. One of my biggest problems is always being in the motion of putting things back where they belong. I’m always so “busy” that I wait until things get bad to tidy up…lol. But yes, can definitely provide tips since I’m learning, too…lol.

  3. Jenet says:

    Hi Danielle!

    No, I don’t think its possible to have it all at one time. In this life, we prioritize what’s important. Some of the priorities will be temporary (home project) and some will be on-going (family/support system). We’re always juggling wants vs needs. So many moving parts to consider. I do think you can be content in the present while still working on your priorities. There’s only so many hours, days, months in our lives. Sacrifices will happen whether we want them or not. Let it be your choice, be in your control on what and on whom you spend your limited time and energy.

    • Danielle says:

      Hey Jenet!

      Thanks for your comment! So true that sacrifices will happen whether we want them or not.

      • LT says:

        I have to agree with Jenet. It’s not possible to have it all at one time, only you have lots of help, which isn’t always possible. I am in a similar place in my life. Trying to make time for working out, food prep, working 7 days a week, keeping my home tidy and the laundry done and put away, making time for family, friends and dating and just making time to deep condition my hair and put on some makeup. I have only been successful in one area, semi-successful in another while everything else suffers or only gets a portion of my time and attention. Everyday I think I should pay someone to clean and do the laundry one a week but that would be a huge problem solved for me.

  4. Eseeri says:

    Hi Danielle! I’m new to your blog and absolutely love this post! Can we have it all? YES. I personally think it all comes down to getting organized if you want to have it all. It’s important to remember that we can’t get everything done at once and that at times, we won’t have it all at the same time. But if we work towards whatever it is that we want consistently we’ll end up seeing that we have all that we want!
    As for the dating part; I have no words as I’m still trying to figure that part out myself. LoL

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