TSABD at Home: How to Purge Your Home & Free Yourself of Excess

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When you look at all you’ve accumulated and think “What have I done?”

I’ve always advocated for routine closet purges—they do amazing things not only for your wardrobe but also your wallet. I swear if you feel like you’re constantly shopping despite having a ton of stuff, a good purge will set you straight. Think about it—going through all the stuff you’ve bought that you don’t wear, doesn’t fit, no longer suits your style, etc. that you paid your hard-earned money for. It REALLY makes you consider any new purchases much more closely. Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t ever buy anything again ever (hello, this *IS* a fashion and beauty blog), but you’ll be more aware of your purchase process and happier with your purchase decisions because you’ll buy things that are really for you and suit your lifestyle.

So I’ve done routine closet purges over the years and it helped to reduce my mindless spending on clothes and makeup. Now again, I’m not saying I stopped shopping altogether nor am I saying I won’t buy anything again ever (because that would be a lie…lol), but I am saying I’m WAY more present in what I’m buying and making sure it fits my lifestyle. I actually did a video on this which you can watch here and make sure you subscribe to my Youtube channel.

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Me judging myself…lol

While I was a champ when it came to purging my closet, I wasn’t always so great at general purging. I had a lot of stuff I really didn’t need that had accumulated over the years. A. LOT. OF. STUFF. And not to mention that I worked from home and because space was limited, my bedroom was my bedroom AND my workspace. And with all the packages and paperwork and just STUFF that comes in on account of what I do for a living, it got very uh, wild in there.

My sister and I shared an apartment but she bought a house and s l o w l y moved her stuff out. I was able to turn her old bedroom into my office but it took a while. I’m still working on finishing up my office though it’s about 80% done. I still need to redo my office fashion closet (this was supposed to be my first project but I got sidetracked and started doing other things in the house) and I need a few decor things—namely inspirational artwork to hang on my walls. You can get a sneak peek on a few things in my office here and here.

From my IG stories: an example of how easy it is for stuff to pile up—I can get products ready to take photos and then not have the energy to put it right back

So now back to my bedroom. My bedroom at times wasn’t so bad—but before my big purge and remodel, it was a HOT MESS. I’ve mentioned before how my attention span can effect how small messes wind up being huge messes. So basically I would start working on one task—say opening blogger mail and there would be a ton of opened boxes, product, and packaging all over the place. Then I’d all of a sudden decide I needed to check my email. Then I’d go start a blog post. Then I’d go to the gym. And then I’d get back to my original mess and be so tired so I’d put it off until later. Repeat that type of process a few times and you have a recipe for some serious clutter. I’d be good about not leaving dirty dishes or food around because WHO is trying to deal with rodents AND clutter.

Now I’ve done big cleanups before in the past but this one was different because I feel like I’ve finally learned my lesson about how to work around my attention span issues so now I’m in a constant state of always cleaning. It’s hard when you work for yourself AND work from home because I’ve always been wired to keep churning out work and would let my chores go to the wayside. But I am chaaaaaaaanging. *Jennifer Hudson in DreamGirls voice*

I’ve gone from compulsively shopping and wanting a lot of things and over time have learned to live with less and have dabbled into the minimalist lifestyle. I’m not perfect though and still a work in progress ;)

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So here’s how to purge:

Get your mind right.

You will not want to do ANYTHING if you’re not mentally ready for it. I always say I have to be “in the mood” to do certain things and heavy duty purging and cleaning is one of them.

I didn’t have an attachment to the things I had accumulated—I just had an attention span and work priority issue that led to the excess. I was able to easily get rid of the excess when I made the time. But I do understand that there are many people who have attachment issues that will make it harder to get rid of excess. If that’s you, I can’t offer much other than you can find a host of information on hoarding on the internet including any local professionals/therapists you can talk to for help. I will say don’t beat yourself up. You can make the changes to declutter. It’s worth it because your mind will be so much more at ease when your living space is in order.

Make the time.

You are not going to be able to purge all at once. You have school/work/children/working out/physical impairments/self-care, etc. that conflict. You want to chisel at it a little at time and give yourself realistic deadlines (because GURL, we will not be purging the same corner for six months—no we will NOT). With my bedroom I started working from one corner to the next to the next. I only allowed myself to work a few hours at a time. I have a wonky back and knees so I couldn’t overexert myself and what good is a slightly purged corner if it means I have to lay down for the next 3-4 days.

You don’t want to overwhelm yourself so do it in small dosages but keep up the momentum. You don’t want to create a bigger mess by pulling out everything and then leaving it to create a huge pile.

Divide items into categories.

As you go through your items, you want to immediately categorize them i.e. things to keep that you need immediately, things to store, things to donate, things to get rid of. You want to sort things out immediately to avoid just moving your excess from one area of the room to another. It’s time to make things happen, captain. You also don’t want to sort things out and then leave them for another day only for them to remain there for another month. ACTION.

Find it a new home or toss it.

When you do a big purge, you’ll need to figure out what to do with all the stuff you no longer need. Look up reputable charities in your neighborhood that will accept donations of clothing, furniture, etc. But understand that charities don’t accept all items for donation so make sure you look it up or call ahead.

It’s also super important to know your local rules on disposing of household items. For example, in NYC you can get a fine for not properly discarding electronics. You can google around for places that accept electronics for recycling. Make sure you properly get rid of any sensitive information still on personal electronics. Or don’t if you don’t mind identity thieves running up your credit.

If you have the time and patience you can also make a few bucks selling your items online. There are a myriad of sites and apps where you can post your items for sale. A simple Google search should help you locate the best ones for you. Just make sure you’re VERY careful about the transactions from start to finish. There are a lot of financial scams that loom around these type of transactions and not to mention the types of unsavory characters that prey on unsuspecting victims. Keep your eyes open. If something seems fishy, it might be because it is.

Join the 21st century.

Things that can really accumulate and take up space include CDs, DVDs, and books. Thankfully all of these things can be bought or accessed digitally OR you can look into converting them into electronic files. I had a slew of DVDs, books, and CDs that I donated mostly to my local library. I didn’t really need to have movies on DVD now that I have Hulu, Netflix, and Amazon Video. Most new books I buy digitally—and now that I have an Amazon Prime account, I have access to Prime Reading which allows me to have access to hundreds of books at no additional costs. More and more I’m kinda glad I forgot to cancel my Prime membership beyond my free trial…lol. This Prime stuff is actually pretty clutch if you make good use out of it. I also have access to a music library through my Amazon Echo Dot and Alexa.

Ditto with things like paper statements and other documents where you don’t need to hold onto the original. Scan them and save them on a hard drive and make sure you properly shred anything with sensitive information on it.

Don’t relapse.

“There’s a place for everything and everything in its place.” My bedroom is Scandinavian style inspired. One thing I love about Scandinavian style is the focus on minimalism AND function. I made usage of all the built-in storage in my apartment—cleared out closets and organized them to make storage and access easy breazy. My new dressers also double as white backgrounds for Instagram and blog pictures (I have a similar setup in my office for picture taking as well). I made sure to get a bed frame that had enough clearance so I could stick an under the bed storage bag underneath it. Basically, very few things are “out” in my bedroom.

I read a book—ok, I read the first few pages of a book—that really helped me be instantly better about sticking to minimalism: The Joy of Less, A Minimalist Living Guide: How to Declutter, Organize, and Simplify Your Life. Maybe it will help inspire you, too. I didn’t even finish the first chapter and that book had me going…lol.

Also seriously consider every single purchase you make after purging. Even something as small as eyeliner—make sure you NEED that eyeliner (shoot, hit my search button on this site to check to see if I’ve done a post on something you’re considering to help you in the purchase process). Make sure you really NEED whatever it is you’re considering and that you have a logical place to store it. Check out How I Reduced My Spending on Clothes and Makeup for tips. Again, this is not saying that shopping is the devil because it surely is NOT. This is saying slow down some and make sure your purchase makes sense for you.

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How your inner-self has to look at your outer-self to vet each potential new purchase

I still have more purging to do—I have the half bathroom, my living room, and my kitchen to get to. And also like I mentioned in my Can We Have It All post, it’s nearly impossible for me to run a business, stay on top of cooking healthy meals, workout regularly, have a social life, run errands, binge watch SVU (I’ve watched seasons 1-17 over the course of I think maybe 2-3 months…lol), remodel my apartment, AND keep on top of making sure I don’t clutter again…lol. And that’s okay ;)


Soooo—those are my tips on purging, but I found a post with some VERY helpful and thorough information that I think will also help. Check it out here.

Do you purge regularly? Tell me your methods!

Have questions? Leave ’em below!

P.S. Stay tuned for my bedroom tour! I have some pending work to do, but I hopefully can film it soon. Make sure you’re subscribed to the blog AND my Youtube channel so you don’t miss a thing.

How to Purge and Get Rid of Clutter

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About Danielle

A former finance girl, Danielle is a New York City based freelance writer and fashion and beauty expert. She's a Hofstra University and Fashion Institute of Technology grad with an obsession with fashion and beauty which she loves to tell you all about every weekday on her award-winning blog. Think of her as your style and beauty entourage all wrapped up into one bubbly brown package. Danielle's work and expertise can be found in print and across the web in Cosmopolitan for Latinas, Allure.com, and more! She's also appeared as an on-air style expert on CBS New York's "The Couch" and WPIX11's Savvy Shopper segment.

9 Responses to TSABD at Home: How to Purge Your Home & Free Yourself of Excess

  1. Chi says:

    Thanks for this post. I have so much clutter in my home and car. I am a working mom who travels often for work and I am going to college online. I feel like I have no time and stuff just piles up. Then I get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of stuff and I just do nothing! This post breaks it down into more manageable tasks.

    • Danielle says:

      Thanks for reading, Chi! My car needs to be cleaned—a really good vacuum, wash, and wax. I may even get detailing if I can afford it. Problem with my car is that I’m not in it for very long and I’m usually in it by myself so I don’t always remember that it needs attention, too…lol.

      I totally understand about getting overwhelmed! Yup—just work in smaller, more manageable tasks and you’ll see over time that you made a HUGE contribution to getting everything in order :)

  2. Laurissa says:

    This article made me laugh out loud! Good timing. I’m good about purging clothes, but everything else… Then, I watched two episodes of hoarders for the first time AND IT CHANGED MY LIFE. I am nowhere near needing therapy, but the show helped me recognize my attachment to my belongings. I also noticed that I am the LEAST attached to the objects I use and enjoy regularly. I believe this is because I have memories to hold on to instead. The “treasures” I don’t ?use for one reason or another become almost idolized; it causes me angst to consider removing/losing them. So, my solution is to get rid of most of the items I haven’t used in years, with the exception of sentimental items like cards, old letters and the like. And I make sure the things I keep are organized in such a way that I can easily find and incorporate them into my routines. Keepsakes are stored in pretty boxes that are easily accessible. I agree that mindset is everything. Now, I’d rather donate items and find them a good home, than bury them away in boxes and drawers. If it turns out I need the item later.. well, that’s what stores are for! Thanks for the article!

    • Danielle says:

      Hi Laurissa!

      Thanks for reading! Glad you found a system that works for you! Once I found mine, I’ve noticed I’m getting somewhat like the Monica character from “Friends” when it comes to cleaning…lol. But it’s so much easier to constantly be in a state of “cleaning” than to have to clean up huge messes which was what I would do before…lol.

  3. Ada says:

    I have a question about your updated makeup video from like Dec ’15. Where can I ask the question? Here since this is your most recent post or under the post with that video?

  4. Bri says:

    I have a bedroom and kitchen purge scheduled this weekend. Its a 3 day weekend so i have no excuse to get it done lol.

    • Danielle says:

      Haha—good luck, Bri! I’ve been purging my living room this week (small bits at a time because I’m not trying to throw my back out…lol) and after I’m done with that I have to start my kitchen. That kitchen is giving me anxiety just thinking about it…lol.

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